Tuesday, April 29, 2014

A little on Sexual and Domestic Abuse in Malaysia

Today's post will be about my Law School field trip made to the Bukit Aman Police Headquarters a few weeks ago. There are 12 departments under the Criminal Investigation Division of the Royal Malaysia Police, and we specifically made visit to the D11 the Sexual, Domestic Abuse and Child Investigation Division. 

In my second year of law school I am taking the subject of criminal law and the field trip that day was relevant to our topic of Sexual Offences. We have spoken to the senior officers of the division and it gave us a lot of insight on how the police operate with regards to the sexual and domestic abuse crimes upon women and children committed in Malaysia. I will be sharing a little of what I received from the field trip. This post will be a little heavier than usual but I will try my best to explain everything in simpler terms. :)

"Domestic violence is a toothless tiger" was claimed by a judge under the case Chan Ah Moi v Phang Wai Ann (1995) because under the old Domestic Violence Act 1994, 'punching, kicking and assaulting' were non-seizable offences. With that, there was 'no immediate need for the police to investigate unless the deputy public prosecutor (DPP) issues an order to investigate'. The situation is not so anymore. With the new Domestic Violence (Amendment) Act 2012, apart from violence with dangerous weapons, physical violence, as well as phychological, social and sexual violence are now covered under the act. All the offences are seizable offences, which means the police will be required to conduct immediate investigations.

To initiate police investigation, victims suffering from sexual and domestic abuse must firstly lodge a police report. The division urge victims to lodge their police reports as soon as possible, because after 72 hours of delay, the biological evidence (ie. semen left by the raper) and injuries (ie. bruises) will most probably cease to exist and that may result in lack of evidence. And do note that, the police cannot initiate investigation without the victim's consent. The officers claimed a lot of cases of which the wife lodged a police report for domestic abuse from the husband, but refused for the police to investigate, the police will not be able to do anything to help her. In the end, whether or not to get help from the police, it is all up to the victim.

The D11 is headed by trained all-woman officers because they see the need for female officers to handle sensitive issues. This is to overcome cases where the victims are shy or ashamed in what they've been through, be it sexual or domestic abuse. There are certified counselors to guide the victims, give advice and assist them in lodging a police report if they don't know how to. There is also the Victim Care Center where victims can get psychological first aid until they are mentally stable to provide better evidence for the case.


They also have the Children Investigation Center (CIC), where child victims are brought in to provide evidence by way of a recording of the interview between the child and the investigation officer. The center is child friendly and has toys around to relax the child. They will reach out to the child as a friend, often by play therapy, before conducting the interview. When the child is comfortable with the surrounding and the officer only then the investigation will be carried out.

In the cases of missing children, the National Urgent Response (NUR) Alert was launched in 2010. This functions similarly to the Amber Alerts in the United States. When a child under 10 years old is reported missing, announcements will be blasted through partners such as highway signs, ATM kiosks, shopping malls etc all around the country to rise awareness of the public. When asked, 'why is the NUR Alert only limited to missing children under 10?' The answer of the police officer was, in the case of missing teenagers most ran away from home either following their friends or boyfriends, where as in the case of missing old people, sometimes they would wander off and couldn't find their way back. As for children, most are of criminal cases involving kidnappers so priority is given to the children. Also, if all the missing people announcements were to be blasted through the said outlets simultaneously, the time spread of each announcement will be reduced which will directly reduce the efficiency of the alert. Last year, there were 12 children reported missing; 10 were found thanks to the NUR Alert.


When asked, 'Why are so many cases of rape and violence in Malaysia but so little of the accused being brought to justice?' The incompetence of the police were often blamed for this scenario (I used to have this mindset too) but more often than not, it is not their fault.

Sometimes yes, maybe due to the negligence of the police in collecting evidence. But in many instances, there is really no sufficient evidence from the investigations for the prosecutor to start trial against the accused in court due to the delay of the victim's report itself. Sometimes the case is successfully brought to court but in the end the judge finds the accused not guilty, so the wrong-doer runs free. With play of roles of the judiciary and the attorney general's office in such cases, there is nothing the police could do. It is not fair to put all the blame on the police.


On to a more general question, 'The perception of the people towards the police of Malaysia are mostly negative. Mindsets generally are for example, the police are all corrupted. And uneducated. What are your thoughts on that?'

She agreed. On education, the officer said it is not necessarily all police are not educated. In fact, the police such as herself were given a lot of opportunities by the government to upgrade themselves with chances to further their education and study overseas to gain expertise in their specific fields. She also urges us law students to consider joining the police force in the future. On competence, the officer explained that there used to be very good policemen back in the days. But she can also observe a decline in attitude and drive of the younger generation of police nowadays.


The trip was an eye-opening one and I've learned a lot of new things I didn't know about before. After my visit, my perception towards the police changed. There might still be horrible policemen we face in our daily lives, but we cannot as a whole disregard the good ones too.

This post made me feel like I'm writing an assignment paper haha! But I really enjoyed the experience and really enjoyed writing this post today. I hope my readers leave my blog today with some knowledge gained. :) 




With all the love,
Kxin

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Tim's 21st Birthday



Tim turned 21 earlier this month! :)

Big 2-O I really wanted to do something special for him on the first birthday we are celebrating together. But to be honest with so many birthday surprises going on among the friends, it is almost hard for anyone to not expect getting a surprise on your birthday (I made it sound like a bad thing but in a way it really is lol). I didn't book a restaurant because it would have been too obvious. I had to make sure I think of something special so that Tim wouldn't suspect a thing.



So then this happened. :D In case you are lazy to watch the 2 minute video, this was what happened on that day. I brought Tim out for a movie date said to celebrate his birthday, my treat. We watched Mr. Peabody and Sherman. And just in case the video doesn't work, link is here.

Busy whatsapping the friends days before to sort out details. While that, I had to make sure Tim didn't get my phone and see anything he was not supposed to lol. Had Vida help me buy the movie tickets earlier so I was able to tell friends with certainty to gather at the exit of the cinema hall at the time when movie was bout to end. 

Couldn't concentrate on the movie because I was so nervous. Had to text friend and get camera ready when we were leaving the cinema hall. When we got out of the hall, friends then jump out with a cake and sang happy birthday for him. :D 


Tim was really happy at the surprise and so happy boyfriend= happy Keryn! :) I also kept thanking our friends for coming all the way just to sing happy birthday for Tim. So thankful!






We then had a simple dinner at Sinbad, a restaurant that serves Middle Eastern food, where Tim got to cut his melted and fell apart :(  birthday cake.



Then a messy icing war happened. Love this series of pictures! Tagged #hitzselfie thought picture was special enough wanted to win the RM3k Snow Ball so badly but didn't so sad.





Had a few rounds of Avalon at Mcd's before heading back.



Tim doesn't really take selfies. But when he does, he uses your phone and makes sure to take a lot a lot of them LOL.



Won this bottle of champagne when we went to Prodigy a few weeks back. After we got home, we downed the whole thing just the two of us before heading to bed lol. Considered that a little celebration of our own!







On the exact day of Tim's birthday, Tim's dad treated the whole family to Dim Sum buffet at The Prince Hotel. Twas a feast! 

Personally loved the cheese dumplings, carrot cakes, soups and porridge. Almost everyone else loved the yam puffs. Food was really good except Har Kau was too big per portion and the flour crepe for the Chee Cheong Fun was too thick. And and and, there was no Liu Shar Pau. How can you call yourself a dim sum place when you don't have liu shar pao!? Lol kidding no kidding. It was a great meal tho! Tim is already considering going back this Sunday lol.




Birthday boy blew his candles for the third time. :)





Pictures with Tim's family. :)





Had coffee with Tim's family at EspressoLab SS15 before they traveled back to JB in the evening. They serve specialty coffee and handmade cakes. Their Salted Caramel Chocolate Cake (RM15) was awesome!

EspressoLab SS15
Address: B12-G & B12-1, Jalan SS15/8A, 
47500 Subang Jaya.
Tel: 03-5612 3338






On a separate occasion, Tim finally got his birthday present from me - a Daniel Wellington watch. :) It was the Classic York in silver, a classic and sophisticated beauty. The gift was super belated because he only recently got his car back from the garage.






While in Bangsar, we had dinner at the Alexis Bistro and Wine Bar. :) Had the Beef Noodles, Salmon Sandwich and drinks were Raspberry Soda and Iced Chocolate. 

Food was pleasant and the ambiance of the place was spot on. The place however was too dark to get any good pictures of the humans. While dining, flashes from phones and cameras from every table can be seen throughout the evening lol. Spot lights from the ceiling did justice to the food and the watch though, so no further complaints!

Alexis Bistro and Wine Bar
Address: 29, Jalan Telawi 3,
59100 Kuala Lumpur, Bangsar.
Tel: 03- 2284 2880



Tim is so lucky to have so many people celebrating his birthday with him. You must have felt pretty special! You should feel special because you are! So cheesy gosh. Hope you enjoyed your 21st birthday love! To the first and more to come!

With all the love,
Kxin

Friday, April 18, 2014

The Origins x Hiruscar Dance Competition 2014



Okay update! The Origins is taking part in another dance competition- Hiruscar Post Acne Step Up Dance Competition. :) 

Most of the old members of The Origins are taking part in this competition plus we have many additional faces! A team of 13 talented dancers is representing the crew for this flash mob styled dance competition.

Tomorrow we will be having our video shoot with the Hiruscar Post Acne crew for the formal audition video. We have been practicing every night for 2 weeks now and we are ready to kick ass in the video shoot tomorrow! The audition video will be released on May 5th and the top 10 liked audition videos will entitle the teams to enter into the finals to fight for the grand prize of RM5000. So guys, your support will be needed!

For now, do check out the introduction video to our crew! :) If you want to watch the introduction videos to the other teams, go to YouTube and search for the Hiruscar Post Acne page. :)

Thank you in advance everybody! Wish us luck. :)





With all the love,
Kxin

The Origins x D2M Dance Competition 2013


Hey people! This is a really delayed post about a dance competition I joined last year- Dare To Move (D2M) Dance Competition 2013. It was my first time joining an official dance competition so it was an awesome experience for me!




The TUDC gang formed a crew, The Origins, and took part in the competition together. :) Below are individual shots with the crew mates!



With Tim. 



OMG Hendry's face hahah + photobombed by Tim.



Arvin, former TUDC President before my awesome batch took over. :P



Damien, leader of The Origins. 



With Nat, the only other girl in the crew. 
Awesome waacker, first time working and performing with her!




Lejun and Lejun Sao, Anne. :)




A walrus-mimicking shot with Tim and a duck face one of myself. :B



Competition video is linked here!! We worked really hard for this competition, practiced every night consecutively for 2-3 weeks. Didn't make it to the finals but it's okay, the experience was all that matters! We did great and I am really proud of my team. :)




With all the love,
Kxin

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Trip to Cherating Beach Resort, Pahang


So Tim and I went on another trip with the Taylor's University Tourism School (first time was Penang) and this time round we went to visit Cherating, Kuantan. It was my first time in Pahang and both our first times to the new place so yay! Intro pic looks so cheeky but I love it! We both looked so happy here. :))





First stop was lunch at a seaside seafood place.



Tim's junior, super active and outgoing Tour pack leader Haha.








Our next stop was the Turtle Sanctuary. I swear the baby turtles were the cutest things!! The place itself was not very impressive but seeing the turtles made up for it. You also get to pay and in the night release the little turtles into the ocean but we didn't do that due to time constraints.







Then we took a Mangrove Cruise along the Hafiz River. :) It was a relaxing nature-filled ride through the mangrove, which for me was another first. Along the way, on two separate occasions we spotted black and yellow snakes resting among the trees. The boatman said that snakes were only active during the evening, and if tourists are lucky they will also get to see squirrels, crocs and etc.






After a list of activities we finally reached our hotel, Impiana Resort Hotel Cherating.



The room we got. :) It was really cozy with all the wood and the reds in the room. And the best part, every room in the resorts gets a beach view which is a super plus! TV was instead a small computer monitor but it wasn't really a big deal. After checking in, we had ourselves sometime to rewind and play in the sea before heading over to the banquet in evening.



Went to the banquet that evening, enjoyed a buffet and a string of performances prepared by Tim's juniors, DT5 (Domestic Tour batch 5).  



Ordered room service that night cuz we were both hungry. Club sandwich.




Next morning. I wouldn't mind waking up to this view every day. :)




Hotel breakfast was good. :) They had a ton of choices to choose from, from western breakfast to porridge and nasi lemaks to an omelette counter. They also have the mini pancakes with the usual toppings made available such as honey and chocolate syrup!






Before departure, we went for a walk by the sea to take some pictures of the pretty place. :) After breakfast we went to play in the sea again but no pictures because neither of us brought our phones. :/

Wearing my super comfy romper from Cotton On, black cardigan from H&M and flats from Nose.






This place reminds me of Damai Beach Resort from back home. I really enjoyed my stay here. :)




Woke up after about an hour of bus ride, we arrived at Teluk Cempedak. Had lunch in the prettiest Mcd to date, one overlooking the ocean. I expected us to stop at some usual shitty R&R place but I woke up to this pleasant surprise. This place is so pretty it made my day. :)  They also have Chatime by the sea, Starbucks by the sea, KFC by the sea- this place is heaven! In the picture is Ben, Tim's junior and also a member of the Dance Club.



Photobombed by Tim LOL.





The beach is so peaceful and clean even though it is crowded. I really really want to come back here again. :)



One with Tim on the bus back to campus. :) And that concludes our 2D1N Cherating trip. Cheers to another trip together! Darling we've come a long way. 




With all the love,
Kxin