Monday, June 29, 2015

Dear Keryn, wife and mom.

When you read this you are already married with children, take the advice given to you by your 23 year-old self back in 2015 in anyway that you can. Your perspectives may change since then but what you felt as a child (more so a young adult) is so much relevant to when you become a parent yourself. :)

Always be supportive of your spouse and children. Make sure they know that you are always there for them no matter what, always prepared to listen to them and give encouraging words. Be there whenever they need a shoulder. Be their support system when they want to venture into new things. Be their safe place to run to whenever the outside world is too hard for them to bare. Be it when they come to your room door in the middle of the night crying after a bad dream, when they come to you with relationship problems or when they come to you after facing an arrogant superior at work. Be it the little things, the big things. Be their lighthouse. Be there for them always.

I know you'd want the best achievements of your spouse and children, but don't push them too hard. You felt the pressure growing up as the eldest child, feeling the need to be perfect in everything and ever so afraid to disappoint anyone. And you know what its like giving your all but feeling that it's never enough and your efforts not appreciated. Don't let those around you feel this way. Give a push to those around you when needed, but not too hard. Appreciate their effort in what ever they do and as long as they've given their best, let them know that it's alright to not be the best in everything.

Be responsible for your actions because every thing you do will have an impact on the people around you. Be the person you want your children to become and be a role model for them to look up to. Be kind and loving to them and to everyone. Be the positive person that gives a positive influence to your partner/ children. When people ask your children "where you get your demeanour/fashion sense/optimistic attitude from?" and they would answer "My mom." Be that mom. "I wouldn't have achieved all this without the support of my wife. She's amazing." Be that wife.

Let them grow up with pets. You know the joy of having a puppy in the family and you know the comfort you receive from Vanilla when you are sad and lonely. Give them the love and loyalty of a dog (or a cat, if your spouse somehow successfully convince you that a pet cat is worth keeping) and they will thank you very much for it. For the memories, and for the companionship they received from loving a family pet. With that said, also give them the joy of growing up with music and dance.

Never stop giving and expressing love. You grew up blessed with a tight knit with your family. Keep that going while adding on building family traditions because it's the that family traditions that keep the family bonds strong. You've been lucky to get to travel when growing up at least once a year be it near or far. And you know how important travelling and the memories that come from it are to a child. Keep it going for your children and make sure your children enjoy the luxury of travelling as much as you did or even more. Give them something to look forward to as a family.

Also, celebrate festivals together. Chinese New Year, birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas. Whenever possible, give presents to your loved ones to show how you appreciate them in your life. Let them know that they live in abundance, be it love, attention, or the need for material things. Don't let them beg for anything. Every one has desires, make sure they get enough from the family that they don't need to seek it anywhere else.

Marriage is not the end of romance. Remember this! Make the effort to keep the romance going. Go on dates, dress nicely for your partner. Keep the 2-2-2 advice in mind. Never stop putting effort in romance. Make sure your spouse puts effort too if not just go ahead and slap some sense into him lol. 

You enjoy clothes and make up so keep that going throughout life because dressing up is a joy of life for you. Keep your image and keep your social circle. And never ever let yourself go lol. Hopefully by now you'd have achieved your ideal weight but even if that's still far from reach. Don't let your weight define who you are but at the same time don't give excuses to not work hard on your body. Even if you are 70kg after giving birth to your 3rd child and you feel ugly af. Don't forget to do your hair and wear nice things and put that lipstick on. Wear that Chanel bag that's been collecting dust and head out for a tea session with your girlfriends. Keeping an effort on your image means respecting yourself, your partner and your family. 

And no matter what happens in life, remember that everything happens for a reason. Life may become overwhelming at time but always take time to smell the flowers. Hold true to this whenever, and teach this to your children too. Teach them about the law of attraction- the secret, and the importance of gratitude- the magic, in everyday life. Let it be their guide on the journey through life. Teach them to be a truly happy person because at the end of the day the most important thing is happiness.

Just some spontaneous rambling done on 28/6/2015. Maybe what the 23 year-old Keryn said here may sound ignorant in more ways than one to the more grown up and mature you, as everything is easier said than done. But do know that this is what I sincerely want for you in your future which is nothing less than the best. Best of luck!!




With all the love,
Kxin

Friday, June 12, 2015

Barcelona in a Day: La Sagrada Familia + La Rambla


Time to throwback to Barcelona. :) 

On the third day of Saloufest (Read here and here), since we had the day free a few of us went down to visit the city. Intro pic is OOTD taken in La Sagrada Familia in front of its famous stained glass window, current Facebook profile picture.




On the bus to Barcelona. :) Departed from Salou 9am that morning and reached city centre in an hour and a half's time. The round trip cost €19.99. Lipstick that day was Nars Audacious Lipstick in Michiyo and I received many compliments on it. :D



Before the bus dropped us off at the city centre we stopped by the Barcelona Stadium... to use the toilet LOL. A must visit for fans but again I'm no football fan. Bus stopped here for toilet break because according to the tour guide there are no public toilets around the Barcelona city centre.





One of my favourite takeaway from travelling is seeing classy and beautiful architecture.




First stop was La Sagrada Familia, the church that has been going through construction since 1882 and to date is yet to be completed. Pictures cannot even minutely represent how majestic the building is in real life. So lucky to be able to visit such an iconic architecture! 

Entrance fee was €15 for students (€18 for adults) so make sure you bring your student ID! We had to queue for more than half an hour to buy the entrance ticket to visit the church and because of the crowd, our visiting time was only at 2.45pm. So meanwhile, we went to eat lunch. 







Even though you can get Spanish food in the UK, nothing beats having the cuisine at its place of origin! Had authentic Spanish food in a local restaurant called Jamon y Vino. Pictures with the girls I was with that day. :)





Tapas are must haves of course! They are a Spanish cuisine comprising all sorts of food served in small portions acting as appetizers. From garlic prawns, stuffed peppers to sautéed vegetables, we ordered a wide variety of tapas to share.



Spanish food would not be complete if there is no paella. We had both the chicken paella and the seafood paella. :) After splitting the bill the whole meal was around €15 each. 

Jamon y Vino
Carrer de Sardenva, 310,
08013 Barcelona, Spain
+34 932659146







Then to La Sagrada Familia we went! Again picture cannot compare to the real thing but I do hope the pictures in some ways show the level of detail that went into the making of this building, especially the carvings around the main entrance.



When you step into the church, the first thing you'd notice is the ceiling. It's far beyond reach and the work is so detailed! The view is so grand and beautiful there are no better words to describe it. Also for some reason the inside of the church is chillier than the outside and even though crowded it gives off a very peaceful ambience.







The stained glass windows all around the church lit its interior beautifully with colours.



The organ made beautiful from the colours reflected from the windows.



A panorama picture attempting to capture the grandness of the church, from ground to ceiling.



The brass door that is one of a main feature of the building too.

At first, I was quite reluctant to visit the church due to the queuing and waiting because I wanted to make the most of my Barcelona trip by visiting more monuments around the city. We only had a few hours in the city and the visit to this church took half the time. It was all worth it though after entering the church imo. :) However the queuing and waiting is something to take note of if you are visiting Barcelona within a limited time span. If you want to avoid wasting time queuing and waiting make sure you buy the tickets in advance!





Strolling around the beautiful city in the amazing weather. :) 

From the internet, found that even though Barcelona is a seaside town, no one wears slippers around the city, which is found true when I visited. Note also that if you love MANGO and Zara, according to Spanish friends it is so much cheaper buying them here instead of in the UK because it's the home of these brands. Hence it was depressing for me knowing so but couldn't go shopping because of the limited time. :C






Made our way to the famous La Rambla boulevard, a shopping district and a tourists attraction site. Had gelato. ♥ Nutella, Chocolate Mint and a fancy-named vanilla that I couldn't remember lol.









Visited the famous La Boqueria market before heading back to the bus stop to take the bus back to Salou at 5.30pm.



Even the alleyways looked so classy and picturesque.






Back on the bus on our way back to Salou. Passed by the Columbus Monument Mirador de Colom, one of the many attractions I didn't get to visit due to time constraints. But I'm walking away from this visit to Barcelona as glass half full rather the opposite. Blessed to be able to visit one of the most beautiful cities in the world and can't wait for the chance to come back again!




With all the love,
Kxin

Saturday, June 6, 2015

Spain: Saloufest II



As I mentioned in the first part of the post, Saloufest is a week-long tour for British students in Salou. And Saloufest is called the mother of socials because parties were held every night. It's tradition that there would be a different dress theme for each society each night, and I will be talking the parties and Freestyle's themes in this post. :D

The theme for the first night was Disney characters. Can you guess who I was dressing up as? People kept asking me why didn't I do Mulan LOL. But yea I went as Jasmine from Aladdin. Jasmine's outfit was supposedly blue but I couldn't find anything blue! Went with a mint green crop and maxi skirt instead, matched with gold jewellery and red lips. :)


Tour room mates Holly and Hannah. Dressing up as
Simba from Lion King and Jessie from Toy's Story
Russel from Up
With Rachel as Mulan

Holding Sangria in my hands. :) Sangria is a Spanish beverage and it is basically wine and fruits. It was my go-to alcoholic beverage while in Spain. 


With Maleficent. Seemal's husband made her the horns it's so cool!



Spot Elsa from Frozen, Winnie the Pooh and Esmerelda from Hunchback of Notre Dame to name a few. Enjoyed this theme very much! After a pre-drinks session at a Freestyler's hotel room we went to the clubs to party. :)

After the first night what are the odds, since I rarely fall sick, I fell sick on the second day of tour. Figured it's the sudden change in weather, I had fever and headache and was coughing like crazy. I completed lost my voice through out the duration of the vacation LOL I couldn't talk AT ALL. went to bed with a wet cloth on my head each night and choked on my cough through out the night. All during tour!! Such party pooper. Luckily roommates came home around 5am almost every night so they don't get disturbed by my cough too much.

Even if I didn't fall sick, I don't think I would've been able to party for 4 nights in a row. One thing about the English culture is the party scene, which is quite the cultural shock for me. People drink and party almost every night I don't know how they do it! But it's not all local. My Malaysian friend who came on tour too partied 4 nights in a row too how does she do it!



Dancing competition on the second day. Used the same routine as the in past competitions.(read here)





Theme for second night was Countries and every one was placed in pairs. Rachel and I chose Japan and we went as ninjas haha. Roommie dressed up as a French lady with stripes and a France flag on her face. Jay as a panda was so cute! Pre-drinks was by the hotel pool and after the gang went off to party I went back to the room to sleep lol.



Sitting in the lobby to use wifi because there is no wifi in the hotel room. What nonsense!!!!!!! So yea, this seat became mine every single night before heading back to the hotel room to rest. 



Night 3's theme was Retro Disco. Was actually a fun theme but I didn't have anything neon so this was what I came up with. More retro than disco and also I didn't know how to do retro makeup hence the shitty makeup LOL. 


Bruno came to annoy me when I was in "my seat"
Jay in his awesome disco gear. After failing to convince me to go
with them to the party asked him to pose for a picture haha


Felt most sickly during the third night. Initially I made up my mind to go out tonight but in the end I figured I really couldn't. After saying goodbye to the gang when they went out, chilled at the lobby for awhile more and went up to bed. Sad life LOL.



In my seat again! See how tired I look TT. Theme for the last night was Smurfs. People around me know very well that I dislike Smurfs very much hence zero effort was made, as you can see lol. Placed blue eyeshadow all over my face to play along and wore a white tee with competition outfit to be a Smurf convict.







Group pictures looked super awesome I must say! Pre-drinks by the pool again and finally I went out with the gang on the last night.  But I didn't stay long lol walked back to the hotel at 2am, got lost on the way. People here really go all out with the themes which is something I really appreciate. Back in Malaysia all we do when we go out is to look sexy and handsome which is nice la but nothing or fun exciting as such.

And that's the end of tour! Found out that Salou authorities are banning Saloufest next year onwards LOL read here . Hence I'm glad I got to experience Saloufest before it was gone. It was quite the experience if I may say so myself! (Google Salousfest for more craziness) Even though I was sick most of the time it was really worth it, with one of the most memorable was getting to visit Barcelona! Next post will be on my trip to Barcelona. ♥




With all the love,
Kxin